True Love!

The other day, I invited some of my girlfriends for a night stay. As all young girls, all we did was talk, that too for hours. We talked about our job (which was all about a new hot girl in office and the threat that followed), life (that it sucked), food (about a new mobile app for calculating calories in foods), music and movies (who wore the worst dress at the oscars) and guys (which was about 90% of what we talked). After a few glasses of beer, we started talking about a vague topic - ‘love’. We struggled to get into a conclusion what love actually is.  After midnight, we finally agreed that ‘love is something, the feeling of which is unexplainable and the lovers clueless'.

As a 16 year old girl, love for me was a romantic flick like ‘You’ve got mail’ or ‘Preety Woman’ where two perfect individual meet, have their differences in the beginning which they sort out and eventually lead a perfect happy life. But now, I feel of having I lapse of judgment then. All these rom coms in big screen and TV’s have benchmarked love to an unattainable level. Love is never supposed to be perfect. Perfection is an overrated term coz no individual is perfect. So how can we expect two imperfect people lead a perfect life together???

May be love is relative and changes with place and time. As a teenager, love may be about exchanging gifts, writing long letters (SMSes now), spending more time together or just kissing and complementing.  But for a married couple, love might be quite challenging. It might be about taking care of the entire family, raising children, making life decisions, being in the office for longer hours to make extra money for vacation or simply making ends meet.

Sometimes our partners may fail to say the three letters words ‘I love you’ that we always want to hear. But that does not mean they don’t love us. A small act of kindness like -offering a helping hand to do the dishes, bringing flowers on special occasions, asking to go out for a movie or even rubbing foot when we are cold shows how much our partners care for and how important we are for them. So maybe we have to look at the little things in life to figure out the big picture.  May be it’s just about accepting and sustaining changes over time. May be sometimes, it’s about listening to the untold, seeing the unseen and appreciating it.

If I may, after you go home, I request all the reader to tell your spouse or partner that you love him/her and that you are grateful to have him/her in your life.

Cheers to love!!