Long Distance Relationship

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One of my colleagues broke up with her long time boyfriend. She said that her boyfriend was relocated to some Middle East country and had no intentions to return any time soon.  So, they decided that they would break up instead of waiting for their relationship to fall apart and destroying every good memory they had when they were actually in love.  When I asked her whether she was heartbroken, she replied ‘I am, but it’s for a better good’.

There are so many couples, both married and unmarried who are in a long distance relationship, as long as 10 years or even more. All they long is a better tomorrow.  They live their life expecting a better future for themselves or their children.  And there are people like my colleague who believes in ‘living in the moment’. Does long distance relationship actually work?? As I pondered deep, I was clueless. 

Being in a long distance relationship is not easy.  It’s actually terrible coz you want someone to hold your hand when you are falling, need a shoulder to cry on when you are sad and to hug someone when you are really happy.  Talking over a phone or the net is completely different than simply being with someone and not uttering a single word. The conflicts are hard to solve coz you tend to read each line literally (coz that’s the only thing possible). The worst part is when you are unable to reach out to the other person when you need the most (coz its 2 am in the other time zone). Sometimes it’s like you are starving, you have food (good food), but it’s in France!!  Let’s face it; no one wants to be lonely and miserable.

Having said that, is love too shallow that it can’t undergo a test of time??? Finding the one true love is hard.  If you are truly /madly/ deeply in love, distance and time are just a number. Just like a tree stands tall and strong even after a strong wind and rain, one can always find ways to work out the relationship which may include taking a call at 2am or actually visiting France to find the food J instead of being grumpy over the facts.  It’s true that we long for togetherness but more than that, we long for love. So, isn’t it better to let go off our egos and difference than losing the one true love??? This might require a lot of patience and understanding, but nothing is impossible.  Everything has a solution including distance. So, may be long distance is not that bad idea either, all you need to do is to find a solution to work it out.

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  1. Unknown12 April 2013 at 08:24

    My experience with long distance relationship is like "last 6 years I've traveled the longest distance in my life"...so i seriously do not like the idea of long distance relationship..have had enuff in my life i guess...a relation that saturated at the end and didn't crystallise

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    1. Subhekshya28 April 2013 at 08:27

      I completely understand what you feel.. As I said, some relationship work out and some don't.. I just wish that someday you will look back and just laugh over the 6 years as it will be a learning and not a luggage. :)

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